Dementia or Alzheimer'sIs it simply forgetting as we get older?  Is it early-onset dementia?  Is it Alzheimer’s?  The first question we ask when elderly folks begin to forget.

Robin Gail provides a personal look inside the daunting reality of the onset of dementia and progression into its most common form, Alzheimer’s.  Other forms include frontotemporal dementia and Lewy body dementia as well as vascular dementia.  She has shared her effective methods that assisted her and her husband in the home care they provided for her beloved mother.

This enlightening book will help you accept and navigate the issues and difficult decisions caregivers face on a daily basis.  You will discover the importance of entering your loved one’s new reality while providing them with compassionate care and unconditional love as you honor their life.

There can be immense moments of joy, countless good times and wonderful memories made as you travel this journey with your loved one.

Following are reviews for this book:

Seldom do you find a book like author Robin Gail’s. Part history, part reference, and it all flows together smoothly. Though it is a short book, there are many passages that will help to educate, console, or give encouragement.

Ms. Gail shares her pain and love for her mother, and for those of us who have experienced similar experiences, it is easy to empathize with the challenges the author faced on a daily basis. Ms. Gail details her emotions and gives an honest accounting of the actions she took, even when she later realized they might have been counter-productive. It is this courage to explain and help others that helps place this book in a class by itself.

While there are many suggestions and references for others to use, the book never falls into a dull recounting of lists of books or items to pursue. Instead, as Ms. Gail recounts her memories, she shares the helpful things she found that aided her mother during what can be a difficult time for everyone. This loving memoir is a touching reminder to all of us that even though it can be painful watching a loved one go through this difficult time, there are rewards in helping them in whatever way we are able. Five stars.  Dee Arr


Here is a resource everyone with a loved one diagnosed with dementia should find extremely helpful. Caring for or emphatically understanding someone with the disease isn’t as straightforward as it may seem to casual observers. I have worked with many people affected with it for 10 years now, and can absolutely say everything in this book is accurate. She deals extensively with the numerous behaviors that are possible with anyone affected thusly and how to handle them interiorly and externally most efficaciously. She has included links to the best organizations in the country that may offer assistance or are in the midst of accomplishing the latest research. This is a very touching story of the family’s challenges in taking care of her mom in a Home Care setting from early onset to the end that is very hard to put down. Of course everyone affected with cognitive function impairment illnesses such as dementia will deteriorate differently. Nonetheless, she handled each “stage” with grace and sensitivity and portrays capably how it affected not only herself but the rest of the family’s journey.
I would highly recommend this book to everybody that’s concerned about, or caring for dementia or Alzheimer sufferers. Glenn Lapoint


Robin Gail’s new book, Dementia or Alzheimer’s, is a sensitive and honest look into the life of living with a parent with dementia. Love and kindness fill the book. But more than that, it is full of highly practical ideas to stimulate and comfort a life in cognitive wane and creative ways to live with the experience – both for the fading parent and the caregiving child. Beautifully and sensitively written, this is a book anyone with an aging parent, spouse, or friend with challenged cognition needs to read. After decades as an eldercare lawyer, I can honestly say this is a book I would have given to every one of my clients if it had been available when I was practicing. Candace Love Windel, Attorney at Law


This book is a gem. Informative, heartfelt and human. Robin Gail draws upon her mother’s inspirational story and shares valuable and practical advice so others can learn from their experience. This book can really help families who go through the challenges of caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s. Highly recommended.

Dr E V Estacio, PhD, CPsychol, SFHEA
Lecturer in Community and Health Psychology and author of Change your Life for Good with the PAME Code of Purpose, Action, Momentum and Energy


They say Texas women are tough, and Helen is no exception. But the one fight Helen couldn’t win, despite all the love and support of a caring family, was her battle with Alzheimer’s. Daughter Robin Gail writes from the heart as she chronicles the early years, watching her mother move from simple forgetfulness they thought was dementia to full blown Alzheimer’s.

The first half of this beautiful book is part memoir, part catharsis as the author tells us about Helen’s life and how this horrible disease stole her mother from her. As the book progresses, she shares honest and practical methods for moving through the various stages of Alzheimer’s. There are tips on caring for your loved one, while recognizing that stress plays a role in developing Alzheimer’s or dementia so it’s important to care for the caregiver as well. She talks about choosing the right home health solutions and how to decide if a care facility is best.

Finally, she stresses the importance of celebrating the life of your loved one once they are gone, so that the terrible memories of those final months and years don’t cloud your memory of the many wonderful years you had before the disease took hold.

This beautiful love story is also a practical guide that is sure to uplift and inspires anyone caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia.  Stephanie D Smith